Are you having trouble with kids who backtalk? It can be frustrating when your child talks back to you. No matter how old they are, it’s important that you handle backtalk right away so that your children learn that backtalk is inappropriate. Here are a few ways you can handle backtalk from your kids.
Understand Why They Do It
The first step to handling your child’s backtalk is to understand why they’re doing it. Are they feeling frustrated? Are they hungry? Did they hear someone else, like a friend or sibling, do the same thing? Once you know the reason behind your child’s backtalk, you can come up with a strategy to help eliminate it!
Generally backtalk is a response to a lack of power or control over their lives so the best way to prevent backtalk is to give your kids a little choice in their lives. The ability to pick out their own clothes is simple but could make a huge different to your child. Work to reduce the amount you find yourself bossing your kids around and you will likely see a reduction in backtalk too!
Try to Talk It Out
If backtalk is becoming a problem in your household, don’t be afraid to sit down and talk it out with your kids. Let them know your expectations for them, including how they should talk, and let them know why this is important. You might even want to go over what backtalk is so that they’re no confusion on the topic. Do this at a time when everyone is calm and communicating well, not during a backtalk incident.
Put Consequences in Place
If your child continues to backtalk you, don’t be afraid to put consequences in place. These consequences can be anything, but if your goal is to eliminate backtalk, you might want to set some consequences that will motivate them to listen. Take away electronics or make them do extra chores. Let them know that they’ll earn more chores if they backtalk again, which should help motivate them to speak respectfully.
Give Them Space
If your kids are getting older, than they might feel the need to backtalk in order to assert their independence or due to the fact that their hormones are not in control. Although backtalk is unacceptable at any age, you might want to give your child some space for them to cool down and get their emotions under control. By giving your child space, you’ll be able to approach the situation calmly and hopefully your child will be ready to talk it out.
Don’t Back Talk Back
Do not feel like you need to explain your decisions when your child talks back to you. The best response to backtalk is silence and the very worst is arguing back. You are the parent, so you need to remain calm and in charge. Starve the situation by not feeding it and avoid the power struggle.
Do your kids backtalk? How do you handle backtalk in your home?
Elizabeth Lampman is a coffee-fuelled Mom of 2 girls and lives in Hamilton, Ontario. She enjoys travelling, developing easy recipes, crafting, taking on diy projects, travelling and saving money!